By JORDANA HORN
(Kveller via JTA)
My mother swims at the JCC. These days, she packs a “go bag” with all of her stuff to bring to the pool in case she is evacuated in her bathing suit by a bomb threat. It doesn’t seem unlikely.
This is not what America should be.
“Well, what can I do?” people ask me.
They feel powerless. Let me tell you this: You are not powerless.
Here are five things you can do to stand up against hate today.
- Join your local Jewish community center. Today, I am joining my local JCC. I am not a member, but I think it is time I became one to show my solidarity. By the way, you can join regardless of whether or not you are Jewish–they have a great gym, pools and classes, just like a YMCA or YWCA, and welcome everyone. Join at the cheapest level as a gesture of support. Tell the membership people exactly why you are doing it. Post a picture of yourself at the JCC, or holding your new membership card, and explain why you’re a new member. Kindness can go viral.
- Support other communities going through pain. There is a GoFundMe, for example, for the families of Alok Madasani and Srinivas Kuchibhotla, the two Indian men shot by a white racist in Kansas; there is also one for Ian Grillot, the young man who went after their shooter and was shot himself. A small amount is nothing to be ashamed of–think of it as your coffee money. The perpetrators and victims may vary, but the hate is all the same, whether directed at us as Jews or Hindus or Muslims or anyone else. You can also give a donation to the Anti-Defamation League or another anti-hate group in honor of someone special in your life.
Be public about your donation, posting about it on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter or whatever, to show that you are stepping up. Explain why, too, so that someone else can get the idea and do the same.
- Call your representative in Congress at their local and Washington offices. A friend of mine offered this suggestion, and I think it is a great one: Ask [your representative] to issue a statement condemning the JCC bomb threats. While we can’t expect much from a president openly hostile to all religious minorities, we can ask for more on a state level–and hope that strong words and actions may provide a deterrent. Tell your representative to speak out on behalf of their Jewish constituents. Urge them to conduct an investigation against bomb threats in their state–18 states had bomb threats one day recently.
Here’s a short script:
“My name is (NAME) and I’m your constituent from (ADDRESS, ZIP CODE). I’m urging the Representative to make a statement against the rising tide of bomb threats against Jewish institutions across the country and in our state [if you live in a state that had a bomb threat] and to urge an investigation in [city where the threat occurred]. Please show your patriotism through solidarity with a community that is now living in fear of violence.”
- Talk about it socially. Don’t act like nothing is happening. That silence is part of what sows the seeds of fear–when people who are not affected (non-Jews, non-Muslims, non-Indians, whomever) turn a blind eye and pretend nothing is happening. IT’S HAPPENING. Talk about it everywhere–online and in reality. Show that you are an ally to those who are suffering.
- Write a note. Take five minutes out of your day and write an email. You could write to the staff of the JCCs who had to hold the hands of 3-year-olds being evacuated, all the while terrified that they would lose their own lives. You could write to the ADL and thank them for doing the good work of standing up against hate. You could write to a parent whose child was evacuated, just reaching out to make sure they are doing OK, to show them that they are not alone and have your support. You could write to a friend who is a minority, saying, “I realize it might sound strange, but I wanted you to know that amid all this hate, I have your back. You are not alone. You are my fellow American, and I am with you.”
I went to the zoo the other day with my kids and saw a sign on a tree that said, “It takes 200 years for a tree to grow to this size; it takes 20 minutes to chop it down.” So often, it can seem like acts of hate or violence or evil or treachery are more powerful than acts of love because they happen quicker and are more violent. But they are not because acts of love and kindness are so meaningful, they are what make life worth living. s
Jordana Horn is a contributing editor to Kveller. She is a journalist, lawyer, writer, mother of six, travel aficionado and self-declared karaoke superstar. Kveller is a thriving community of women and parents who convene online to share, celebrate and commiserate their experiences of raising kids through a Jewish lens. Visit Kveller.com.